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Jan 2Liked by Sarah

love the hack to reach out right before 'correspondence bankruptcy' to reduce pressure on the recipient 👍🏽 i also try to generally cultivate a norm of 'no response necessary' with anything i send; if it's urgent i'll call or say so.

this made me reflect on my frequent desire for solitude, often by saying or feeling that 'my social cup is full'. i never thought that it might cost me some 'social muscles' but i can see that as a possibility if it goes on for too long. nevertheless, i'd like to think that i know when i want to have company and when not, that i have good judgement in balancing this within myself.

in what seems to now be a previous life, where i felt an overwhelming lack of social interaction, friendship, or companionship, i practiced what i called 'shake the tree' once or twice a year: dm everyone with warm wishes and my current city. many were happy i sent this, many reacted with a simple emoji, many didn't respond, but it generally felt worthwhile for me.

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To say no to any kind of binary. If we can say no to binaries, we can say many yesses.

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The will to be kind is the energy we need to spread. To become a walking, talking invitation. Let others take up our invitations or not.

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