love the hack to reach out right before 'correspondence bankruptcy' to reduce pressure on the recipient 👍🏽 i also try to generally cultivate a norm of 'no response necessary' with anything i send; if it's urgent i'll call or say so.
this made me reflect on my frequent desire for solitude, often by saying or feeling that 'my social cup is full'. i never thought that it might cost me some 'social muscles' but i can see that as a possibility if it goes on for too long. nevertheless, i'd like to think that i know when i want to have company and when not, that i have good judgement in balancing this within myself.
in what seems to now be a previous life, where i felt an overwhelming lack of social interaction, friendship, or companionship, i practiced what i called 'shake the tree' once or twice a year: dm everyone with warm wishes and my current city. many were happy i sent this, many reacted with a simple emoji, many didn't respond, but it generally felt worthwhile for me.
Love this! I’m Harrison, an ex fine dining line cook. My stack "The Secret Ingredient" adapts hit restaurant recipes (mostly NYC and L.A.) for easy home cooking.
As a disabled person I have to prioritize my safety, baseline health, and personal independence from COVID minimizing/denying family members so I have to forgo many family gatherings. They won't make any efforts to practice safety precautions. I'm the one who has to conform to so-called 2019 normal social behaviors. I'm generally ignored if I show up masked. I think I will stick with my solitude and interact only with other disabled people experiencing the same ableist behaviors.
:( I'm sorry this has happened/is happening to you. There is, as you might imagine, a chapter in my next book that largely focuses on the dilemmas involved in solving this issue given COVID and disability.
love the hack to reach out right before 'correspondence bankruptcy' to reduce pressure on the recipient 👍🏽 i also try to generally cultivate a norm of 'no response necessary' with anything i send; if it's urgent i'll call or say so.
this made me reflect on my frequent desire for solitude, often by saying or feeling that 'my social cup is full'. i never thought that it might cost me some 'social muscles' but i can see that as a possibility if it goes on for too long. nevertheless, i'd like to think that i know when i want to have company and when not, that i have good judgement in balancing this within myself.
in what seems to now be a previous life, where i felt an overwhelming lack of social interaction, friendship, or companionship, i practiced what i called 'shake the tree' once or twice a year: dm everyone with warm wishes and my current city. many were happy i sent this, many reacted with a simple emoji, many didn't respond, but it generally felt worthwhile for me.
Wow I really like the shake the tree idea
The will to be kind is the energy we need to spread. To become a walking, talking invitation. Let others take up our invitations or not.
To say no to any kind of binary. If we can say no to binaries, we can say many yesses.
Love this! I’m Harrison, an ex fine dining line cook. My stack "The Secret Ingredient" adapts hit restaurant recipes (mostly NYC and L.A.) for easy home cooking.
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As a disabled person I have to prioritize my safety, baseline health, and personal independence from COVID minimizing/denying family members so I have to forgo many family gatherings. They won't make any efforts to practice safety precautions. I'm the one who has to conform to so-called 2019 normal social behaviors. I'm generally ignored if I show up masked. I think I will stick with my solitude and interact only with other disabled people experiencing the same ableist behaviors.
:( I'm sorry this has happened/is happening to you. There is, as you might imagine, a chapter in my next book that largely focuses on the dilemmas involved in solving this issue given COVID and disability.
Are you referring to “Don’t Talk About Politics”